Those who say cats are cold by nature don’t know them at all. Or know the wrong kind. Cats can be heartbreakingly warm and loyal. The kind that will come and nestle up to you even if you chase after them with threats of blows for getting on your bed with muddy paws. So that when they are gone, you’d give anything to see them stretched out on your precious furniture once more, letting their fur down.
However, it is true that cats, at least those with stray blood in them, remain uncompromisingly independent. No amount of love, food, coaxing or threats will keep them indoors always and forever. Let the streets be dirty, full of menacing dogs, speeding cars, hostile humans, rival felines, barbed-wire fencing, treacherous steps or dizzy heights. There is an intrepid explorer in the most timid kitten.
Our tom of more than four years was born and brought up here. I remember when he and his sister were kittens, they were confined mostly to the ample rooftop to play around and be safe from the streets yet not get in our way downstairs. I was once leaving for a week. G, the male kitten, began wailing, looking down from the railing of the rooftop. His sister was less attached to me; she was merely concerned at her brother’s anguish. So she kept rubbing her head against his, one of the ways they show affection. When I returned, the sister was gone. She had climbed down from the roof to the street, only to be killed by a dog before she could be saved. Left alone, G had gone almost crazy with anxiety and loneliness, and it was all I could do to calm him when I returned.
We spent numerous late afternoons on our rooftop, playing football (what do you mean, you don’t know what I mean?), strolling, lazing around… even if I sat on the stairs reading a book, G would come up to sit near me. Then, when he grew older, he naturally began spending more time outdoors, in a world mysterious to us, for it must have existed very close to our house and yet was completely unknown to us: cats have a way of disappearing round the corner. Many times he came home with an injured paw or a nasty wound or a pitiable layer of dirt on his handsome coat. He refused to take medications properly; he refused to be daunted by these perils. He went where he wanted to, returned when he wanted to. He lived his life his way, I like to think.
And he died unbeknownst to us, who knows where and how, following closely a much younger and similarly beloved feline member of the household. G was our OG tom.
He is loved and missed and I hope he can feel a tight hug wherever he is now.